Family life was perhaps easier few years ago when the men were the bread earners and the women were bread makers. But now, the lines are blurring and things are changing. Women get out of the house to work as well, it’s really too much to expect them to work for 8 hours at the office, 2 hours in travel and another few hours looking after the house. Trying to match men’s pace in the corporate world and still struggling to be the perfect wife, daughter-in-law and mother are really difficult and frustrating. If you are one of those people who empathise with working women and want to help them but don’t know how to, here’s how you can do that.
Division Of Work
Division of work might sound very rude and superficial but it works wonders. This is the best way to prevent accusations about who was supposed to do what and who missed on completing their tasks. If you have already decided who should do which chores, each one of you would be clear about their task and would work accordingly.
Work As Per Your Likings
Many people don’t like their jobs because they don’t do what they like doing. The same applies to domestic chores. You don’t feel that you are working when you are doing things that you enjoy. By helping your spouse with completing domestic tasks you enjoy doing, you would not feel worked up while reducing your spouse’s stress. For example, if you are someone who doesn’t mind the clutter but love cooking, start helping your spouse in the kitchen, even better, start cooking the meals when he/she is busy cleaning the house.
Be A Team
The most important thing to remember about a marriage is that you are a team, all of you are on the same side, there is no red team and blue team, who are working against each other. Hence, working as a team, being on the same side, would help you to complete the domestic chores easily and faster, which means at the end of the day, none of you would be extremely tired and would have some time to spend together, to relax and enjoy together.
Line Of Demarcation
You can also divide the work according to the area, for instance if you are the one who is good with finance and money and your spouse has good planning and organising skills, you can divide the work as per the area. You can look into the bank, financing and shopping lists, while your spouse cleans, organises and beautifies the home.
Appreciate And Be Grateful
One thing that we forget as a family is appreciating how much our family is doing for us, being grateful to them. Don’t forget to thank them time and again, not only with words, also with your actions. Try completing their tasks for them once in a while, trust us, there is nothing more satisfying than seeing that grateful smile on their face.
Work According To Your Capacities
Again, like we said, work as per your interests and capabilities. If you are the lean and weak one, it might be difficult for you to do the heavy lifting of things, don’t be afraid to seek help from your spouse. If you are allergic to dust, ask your spouse to clean the house while you rearrange the furniture. This will keep you and your relationship with your spouse happy and healthy.
Doing a few domestic chores won’t make you lesser of a person, rather it would help to improve your image for your spouse and make your bond stronger.